The Midlife GlowGetter Awakening Mini Series, Week 6 Power

You can be the woman who holds everything together and still feel like you don’t get to choose. That tension is exactly what we’re unpacking as we move into Week 6 of the Midlife Glowgetter Eight Week Awakening series: power. I’m talking about the kind of midlife power that doesn’t need to be flashy or loud, just rooted, clear, and self-led.

We get honest about why so many of us confuse strength with power. Strength says, “I can handle it.” Power says, “I can choose.” From there, we dig into the real turning points: giving ourselves permission instead of waiting for approval, rebuilding self-trust after years of second-guessing, and using our voice with clean language that protects our needs. We also look at the quiet ways we give our power away every day, then bring it back through higher standards, clearer boundaries, and a willingness to tell the truth even when it’s uncomfortable.

Midlife empowerment is practical, so we also talk about money and financial clarity as a pathway to freedom, plus the way power shows up in the body through posture, presence, and finally taking up space without apology. I’ll leave you with reflection questions you can journal on right away to spot where you feel powerful, where you’re leaking power, and what one next choice could change the trajectory of your next chapter.

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Transcript

Why Power Is The Next Pillar

Strong Is Not Always Powerful

Self-Permission Changes Everything

Self-Trust As The Foundation

Finding Your Voice With Clarity

Daily Ways We Give Power Away

Standards As Self-Respect

Acting With Fear Still Counts

Quiet Midlife Power Looks Like This

Money And Freedom Through Clarity

Power Lives In The Body

Stop Negotiating With What You Know

Responsibility And What You Control

Anger As A Wake-Up Signal

Confidence Built By Evidence

Reflection Questions To Journal

Personal Updates And Listener Requests

Next Week Purpose And Closing

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Well, well, well. Welcome, ladies, back to the Midlife Glowgetter Podcast. And we are doing a series here. This is week six of the Midlife Glowgetter Eight Week Awakening miniseries. Again, this is week six. Over these eight weeks, we're talking about eight pillars, okay, in midlife awakening. And they include awakening, identity, healing, body, relationships, power, purpose, and vision. Back in week one, we talked about awakening. And this is when a woman realizes something in her life no longer fits. And she can't be comfortable and she doesn't want to live on autopilot anymore. So that was week one. In week two, we talked about identity. This is when you've been living a story, roles, labels, and survival patterns, and you've confused it with your true self. That happened to me, that happens to many women. It's what it means to become more conscious and who she's becoming that week. You're becoming who you really are, who you're meant to be, without any labels, without any outside influence. In week three, we talked about healing. This is the pain women carry, the patterns that grow from pain. It is the truth that many women are high functioning, you know, getting things done, but they still have not fully healed. And so we talked about that in week three. In week four, we talked about the body. This was one of my favorites, favorite weeks. How midlife changes your relationship with your body. How many women have been taught to live in criticism instead of connection? And that was me for many years. It is what is means to move from body shame and punishment into a sense of respect and dignity and stewardship. So we talked about that in week four. In week five, we talked about relationships. Women confuse love with self-abandonment and overgiving creates a sense of resentment almost, and how boundaries do matter and what it means to begin wanting more honest, nourishing connection. So that was week five, relationships. So if you have not yet listened to weeks one through five, I highly encourage and suggest you go back and listen to those and start there because this is a series and it really does build week by week. And it is best listened in order. Because, you know, once you awaken and identify and heal and rebuild your body relationship and tell the truth about your relationships, the next thing is often what is how do I reclaim my power? And that is what we're talking about today: power. So again, today's pillar is power, and this really is a big pillar for week six. So many women are strong. We are strong individuals, but we do not feel fully feel powerful in our own way. You know, we are capable and responsible, dependable, hardworking, resilient, nuturing, loyal. We are the one that everyone counts on. And yet, underneath all of that, many women really feel voiceless and hesitant, stuck, afraid to disappoint, really afraid to take up space, afraid to make a big move, afraid to trust themselves, even afraid to ask for more. That is why this pillar matters so much. Because power is not just about being strong enough to just carry your life. You also want to be self-led enough, self-led enough to choose your life. You want to choose your own path, not just carry it along. So that's why this pillar of power for week six is so important. So a lot of women really confuse being strong with being powerful. And I think this is a very important point to understand. Women can be very strong and still not feel fully powerful. You know, as women, we can survive hard things, we can raise children, hold down jobs, care for our parents, pay the bills, keep everything moving in the right way, and be the emotional backbone of everyone around us. And that is real strength. But strength and power are not exactly the same thing. Strength can often sound like I can handle a lot, I can carry this, I will get through it, I will figure it out. However, power sounds more like I can choose, I can say no, I can tell the truth, I can ask for more, I can honor what I know. So that's the difference between power and strength. Also, I think so many women have been praised for strength while quietly losing their touch with power. We as women are admired for so much that we do, but deep down, I think we still may feel that we're always responding but not leading, that we're always caring, but not really choosing, and that we are always like responsible, but not really free. And this is a very different thing. Power also begins with self-permission. I think one of the really reasons many women struggle with power is because they are waiting for permission. I think we as women want more, we want permission to want more, to rest, to change, to speak up, to stop overgiving, to build something bigger, to set boundaries, to be visible. And a lot of the time, this permission will just never come. And if it does come, it really comes too late. You know, we as women can spend years waiting, waiting for the right time, more confidence, more approval, just more validation, someone to tell us we are allowed. And power often begins when we realize I may have to give myself my own permission. And this really is a huge shift. Because once we as women stop waiting for external approval to honor our internal truth, our whole life can start moving differently. You know, we begin asking, what do I know or what do I want? What am I no longer willing to ignore? What would I choose if I stopped asking for permission to be myself? This is where power starts becoming really real. Now, this is a big part of this whole episode here. Self-trust. Power requires self-trust. And this really is one of the deepest parts of the whole conversation. Women cannot fully stand in their own power if we, you know, if she does not trust herself. I'm not saying trusting other people, I'm saying trust herself. Trust herself to notice what feels off and listens to discomfort, believes, you know, her own perception, keep promises to herself, make decisions, to handle hard things, to recover from mistakes. And I think so many women have taught been taught to doubt themselves, really, to second guess their intuition, their desires, their discomfort, their instincts, their boundaries, their wisdom. And I really think uh women look outside themselves constantly. I know I did for many years. What would others think of me? What would be the smartest thing to do? Will this upset someone? Am I overreacting? Maybe I should wait. But really, power grows when we as women start saying, I hear myself, I believe myself, I trust what I'm noticing. I may not know everything, but I'm not going to talk myself out of my own truth. This is powerful because so much of us women's suffering comes not from only being in pain, but from overriding ourselves in the middle of it. One of the clearest expressions of power we as women use is our voice. When I think about power in women, I think a lot about voice because we as women have learned how to soften our language and not use our voice. We see things, we say things like, I don't want to be difficult, or it's that is that okay with you? It's fine. That's a big one. Whatever you want, or never mind, or I'm probably overthinking it. And really that kind of language often can sound polite, but underneath it can be a sense of fear, right? Fear of taking up space or being too much, being rejected or causing discomfort, being misunderstood, being seen as hard or as selfish. So voice is really a huge expression of power. And one more thing I want to point out is power does not always mean being louder. What it means is being clearer. You know, being powerful sounds like more like that doesn't work for me, or I need something different. That hurt me, or just simply no, or I've changed my mind, I'm not available for that. This matters to me. Here's what I need. And I do know that can sound very simple, but for a lot of women, including me, how I used to be, that kind of language is a huge act of courage. Because power is often not about learning really fancier words, right? But it often becomes, you know, you need to become willing to tell the truth in a clear, respectful way. So many women give their power away quietly in in daily ways. And I think many people, including myself, hear the word power sometimes and really think, imagine dramatic moments, big decisions, big boundaries, big breakthroughs. And yes, power does show up there. But power is also given away in very small daily ways. A woman gives her power away when she says yes when she means no, when she ignores what she feels or betrays what she knows, minimizing, minimizes what she wants, overrides her body, keeps putting herself last, keeps postponing what really matters to her. And these moments may seem very small, but they can shape a life. Because every time a woman leaves herself, something in her learns something, such as my truth is not the priority, or my needs come after everyone else's. I'll be I can talk, I can be talked out of myself, or what I know is less important than what keeps people comfortable. So it, you know, those are things we learn and they do take shape in our lives. And power begins to really return when those patterns take a break. And when we as women say, I'm not listening to this, or no, I'm not going to override myself here. Or no, I'm not going to keep abandoning what I know. That is how power really comes back to us. And standards are really part of power. Standards, and I think standards are one of the clearest forms of self-respect we as women can have. Our standards can show what we tolerate, what we no longer tolerate, what we expect, what we are willing to participate in, and how seriously we take our own lives. And standards affect so much in our lives, ladies. They affect love and friendships, money, how we treat our body, our career, our work, our time, our communication, our rest, our home environment, really our whole emotional atmosphere of our lives. And many women do have low standards in place where they do secretly want more. It's not because women are lazy and that they don't care. It's because they've grown used to chaos and crumbs and confusion, self-neglect, under functioning for others that they love, overfunctioning for themselves, and just a really constant reacting. And remember, power asks, what am I no longer available for? What is not good enough for this next chapter? Or what standards would reflect the woman I'm becoming? Those are serious questions because a woman's standards often reveal how deeply she believes she matters. Now, I really want you to hear this loud and clear. Power is not the absence of fear. I think a lot of women assume they are not powerful because they are scared. And women think if I were really powerful, I'd feel certain. I'd feel brave all the time. But trust me, that's really not how it works. It power looks like telling the truth while afraid, or setting the boundary while guilty and making a decision while unsure, showing up while still nervous, starting before you really fully feel ready. And so just remember power is not the absence of fear, it is aligned action in the presence of fear, and that really matters because a lot of women are waiting to feel brave before they act. But often bravery grows because you acted, not before. Now, midlife power is often much quieter than people think. I think people sometimes imagine power as being flashy, loud, and dominant, charismatic, commanding. But I truly believe midlife power is often much quieter and comes in stages. It can look like fewer apologies and clearer no's, just less over-explaining, right? Stronger boundaries and better choices, less chasing, more calm, more groundedness, more self-trust, less proving. I mean, we've grown into this. We've had years and we become more calm and less proving in our 40s and 50s and 60s. It can look like a woman walking into a room and simply feeling more rooted in herself, more confident. Not because you know she is trying to impress anyone, but because she no longer is constantly abandoning herself. And that kind of power is very subtle, but it is unmistakable. And I think many women miss their own power because they expect it to look louder than it does. They think they miss out on their power. But sometimes power is not dramatic. Sometimes it's a quiet shift from I need everyone to be okay with this, to I know what is true for me. And that is so powerful. Money is part of power too. I really want to touch on this because it really does matter. For many women, power is deeply connected to money, not because money equals worth, right? It doesn't, but because money affects choices and freedom, stability, options, safety, and future possibility. A woman who avoids money may feel powerless in ways she does not fully name or even it may not be so obvious to them, to a woman. A woman who does not know her numbers and avoids planning, feels ashamed or stays dependent in unhealthy ways, can really end up feeling trapped, not only financially, but really emotionally. It means taking a really good look at the numbers, being honest with yourself, learning what you need to learn about money, about finances, telling the truth about where you are, not hiding under the covers, you know, not not avoiding, building a sense of stability and responsibility, creating a room for more choice for the future. And really, this is not shallow. This is self-respect and powerful. A woman does not need to be rich to be more powerful, but financial clarity often can lead to freedom, and that freedom matters. And body is part of power too. I really want to reiterate this. This was me. Power is not only mental, it's embodied in our bodies. A lot of women shrink physically over the years. Women slouch and hide, pull inward, avoid eye contact, dress apologetically, carry themselves like they are trying not to take up too much room. And I understand why, because that was me for many years. Many women have been taught not to be visible, not too bold, not too present. But power often begins to show up in the body. You know, when a woman awakens and becomes powerful, it shows in the way she stands, the way she walks and breathes, dresses, enters a room, occupies a chair, how how she meets someone's eyes and stops apologizing and having good posture. When a woman starts believing she matters, her body often starts carrying that truth as well, and that really matters. Power often begins when a woman stops negotiating with what she already knows. This is a really big shift. So many women know they know what is not working, you know, where they are unhappy, what really needs to change, what they're tolerating, right? We know a pattern, we know the truth, but we always negotiate it with it. We always negotiate, and we always say, maybe it's not that bad, maybe later, maybe I'm overreacting, maybe I need more proof, or maybe I should wait. That negotiation drains your power as a woman. Because every time a woman argues what she already knows, she gets further from herself and her truth. Power often begins when a woman says, No, I know this. I may not know everything, I may not have the answer, but I know enough to stop pretending I don't know. This is a turning point because clarity may not give the full plan, but it usually gives the next truth. And power lives in honoring that truth. Power is also connected to a sense of responsibility. This is really important. Power is not just about confidence, it's also about responsibility, not blame, not shame, responsibility. The kind that asks, where am I still waiting instead of choosing? Or where am I still blaming instead of acting? What is mine to own now? What can I begin doing differently from here? This matters because a lot of women feel powerless when they are. Focused only on what they cannot control. And yes, there are things we as women cannot control. We can't control the past, aging, other people's choices and behaviors, old wounds, and life being just unfair. But there are things we as women can begin controlling. Our standards, our voice, our boundaries, boundaries and routines, our next decision, our truth, our self-leadership. And this is where power grows. Now, this is a good one. Anger can be part of power too. I think many women start reclaiming power through their anger, not destructive rage, not chaos, not really lashing out. But the kind of anger that really can say, enough is enough. I am tired. This is not okay. I matter too. This anger can be clarifying. It can show a woman where the line is, where they've had enough, where the cost has become too high. And I think many women are afraid of their anger because they were taught anger can be unattractive, right? Or even dangerous. But sometimes anger is the beginning of self-respect waking up and our power. Sometimes it's the fire in our belly that helps a woman stop betraying herself and regain that power. Now, this is one of the most powerful practical truths in this whole episode, this whole conversation. Confidence grows through evidence. Confidence is not magic. It is built through evidence, through action. We, as women, become more confident when we keep one promise to ourselves. We say hard things. We survive being uncomfortable. We handle that decision. We tell the truth. We stop waiting. We do that thing scared. And really, over time, that evidence, that evidence just builds like a snowball, right? Like a snowball. And we start realizing we can trust ourselves more than we thought. We can do the hard things. We can recover and speak and choose and we can lead ourselves. That is how confidence grows. Not from waiting to feel ready, but from becoming someone who keeps showing up hers up for herself and showing proof, showing the evidence. So before we close up this episode, I wanted to leave a few reflection questions. I jotted them down. And I want them to, you know, to really, I want you to really listen to them, you know, write them down in your journal and answer them, or just listen to them if you're taking a walk or moving your body, or even, you know, if you can while you're driving, think about these questions. Sit with them honestly. So here they are. Where in my life do I feel most powerful right now? Where do I feel like I keep giving my power away? Where am I still waiting for permission? What truth do I keep talking myself out of? Where do I most need stronger standards? What would self-trust look like for me in this season? If I led myself more fully, what would I begin doing differently? So just sit with that. Soak it in. Try to answer them. Think about the answers, think about these questions. Because sometimes power does not begin with just one big move. It begins with one clear moment when a woman is, you know, can say, I am done waiting to be rescued. I am done abandoning, and I'm ready to lead myself differently now. And that's what truly matters. Ah, this pop pillar of power really touches on so much. It affects so much. It affects money, relationships, body healing, confidence, visibility, purpose, and voice. It is the entire shape of a woman's future. And I am just so glad I got this podcast in today. I know this release is on Monday morning, and I did record this late Wednesday evening. I tried recording Wednesday morning, and I've been taking notes before these podcasts and writing them down and really writing a script and reading from that script. And I did get some feedback. It was definitely feedback I guess I did need saying, you know, the material's really good, but it felt like I was just reading to the women listening to this podcast. And I took it to heart and I re-recorded, and I just read from an outline that I created. And I free free thinking and free speaking. So I hope this podcast sounded a little bit better and I will start doing that now on. So whoever sent that feedback, I appreciate you. Thank you. Also, I'm glad I got this podcast in because it was just a hectic day today. I had off from work. Today is Wednesday. I know this release is Monday, but I did things with my dad. I had an appointment, I had a life coaching appointment. And then we got hit with just really bad storm all of a sudden. And we got golf-sized ball hail, heavy, heavy torrential downpours. I felt bad for people being on the highway around this area. I was really worried about my son because he was driving on the highway. And I didn't want to call him, you know, when he's on the highway, but you know, I was just really worried. So I didn't, I didn't record then because the weather was so bad. And then my son was making some noise and singing, and he he's so funny. He'll like hum a hum a hum a song or something and get ready for his evening routine, and he gets really loud and he gets excited. So it's it's good to hear that. It makes me feel young. But you know, he I mentioned this on my social media that he's moving out. Uh he just turned in his application for an apartment and he's moving out July 1st. So yeah, all the things that I'm gonna miss him, but he can be kind of loud, but that's okay. You know, he's young, he's only 26. But I hope you guys enjoyed this podcast. Excuse me. And if it spoke to you, stay close, follow this podcast. If you think another one would a woman would benefit from this, you know, forward this to her. Next week is pillar seven, and that's purpose. And that'll be a really good one. So until then, just remember you are not too much for wanting more, and you are not, you don't need permission to honor what is true. And I will see you next podcast. Love Jax.